freedom vs security

I dreamt I was with this family. Events happened before, but then I remember being with two women. One.. a matriarch ... maybe the mother, the other the daughter and I... not sure what I was. A sister? a daughter? a stranger?   A man came home and he was a controlling angry man. I think he was telling the women what to do and could sense my foreigness to what he was doing. He came up to me.. held one side of my head to keep it steady enough to punch with the other hand/fist with the goal of breaking my nose, as well as showing who was boss. He then asked/told myself and another girl ... the daughter, to go to the market for particular items. We left. As soon as we felt at a distance, I told her that we had to take this opportunity to leave and escape.  She rejected the idea although I know she wanted to not experience fear again. But she knew here life, her clothes were in a closet, the dishes were familiar, she knew her routine and how to react to her family. I was adamant...  there seemed to be a woman there.... counselor or? I said.. please.. we need to tell her why she needs to do this now.. or she needs to go back so she won't be in trouble for being late. But we need to rescue her.

I retold the dream in the morning to a friend.... I realized I was both myself and the girl. .. (if you ever have a strange or intense dream... repeat it aloud to someone. makes more sense.)